If there is one bewildering aspect of being human, it is our strange relationship with the concept of Truth. We don’t even notice how many times a day we tell little lies to ourselves and others.
But, the truth is, a healthy world can ONLY be built on Truth. Yet, we live in a world filled with deceit – from lies of mass manipulation to small white lies to preserve a relationship with someone. But, in the end, large or small, lies undermine our sense of peace, beauty and even love.
We all regularly experience the unconscious agreement of buying into the lies of others. Just look at the world around us and see how these current ridiculous pieces fell into place. It happened through one carefully orchestrated, or even careless, lie after another to bend perception toward someone’s gain. The word ‘lie’ itself has even been bent into a farce when it was recently termed “alternative facts.” I nearly fell off my chair when I read that one.
As I have mentioned in previous blogs, the Human Being is a uniquely conflicted species. Highly intelligent and creative beyond our imagination on one hand, and easily controllable, living in fear for our own survival on the other. The Animal Man’s fear of survival easily succumbs to control through deception. It will believe anything that makes it feel safer, even if believing the lie in reality makes your actual situation more dangerous. This perception of survival is where Truth can become very inconvenient indeed.
Relationships of all kinds, be it work, friendship or intimate love, find us shape-shifting the truth to be accepted by another person. The fear is that to be judged or rejected will threaten our sense of safety, or even survival. So, as a means to an end, we misrepresent ourselves. Then we have to keep up the facade, living in fear of being discovered for the fraud that we are (or have represented ourselves as.) This creates a low level, constant anxiety, whether we know it or not. Worse, it keeps us from our genuine truth and genuinely meaningful connections.
In trying to make something fraudulent work for us, we deny the opportunity to find the very thing that DOES work for us. I believe we have all experienced this in one relationship or another. We try to keep it together with one compromise and deflection of truth after another. Why? Because something in us believes either we don’t deserve, or can’t somehow have, what is divinely and rightfully ours. So we use subtle deceits to keep the familiar going.
Conversely, when the “moment of truth” arrives at various times in our lives, we feel relieved. Heart pumping, sweaty palmed we face off with someone, knowing we can’t play the game of deceit any longer. We tell our big Truth, knowing the entire house might burn down. Then this thing happens. A tremendous release of tension and anxiety flows out of us. The Emptying lets us feel ourselves for the first time in ages. In this Void exists all possibility. Over time, the new begins flowing in and filling the Void. Perhaps love, or work, or friendship arrives once again.
If we have the courage to demonstrate our truth from the beginning, the learning curve and course correction is incredibly short, rather than painful and extended. We move on to find the best positioning or fit for ourselves.
If there is one thing that stops a person from pursuing this logical procession, it is a simple lack of faith that life is filled with Grace and Abundance in the real sense of the word. In a future blog I will speak about Grace and Abundance. This will not be your New Age Mama’s version. It’s literally all around us waiting to be expressed through us, but it demands patience and a little bit of faith.